The topic of ‘self-love’ is nine times out of ten, misconstrued. We live in a society where we are constantly shown what we don’t look like, who we aren’t and what we don’t have. But what about what we do have? What about the infinite qualities we actually do possess as individuals? Everyone and everything seems to be judged on the outer layer – your face, your body, how the coffee looks but not how it tastes (mine is a chai latte if you’re offering)
Unfortunately, self-love has this type of mistaken identity, that if you love yourself then you’re clearly arrogant or extremely egotistical which is utterly ridiculous. Self-love actually forms the very foundation of your single, most important relationship – that with yourself.
Although, technically, we are all just organized bones wrapped in flesh, roaming the planet, we are all mentally wired completely differently and we can all bring something to the table. I absolutely, whole-heartedly believe that everyone, yes everyone, possesses qualities they should be proud of, and proud to show to the world. In this millennial culture, where imagery of unrealistic body expectations is everywhere we look – it is vital that we utilize our wit, kindness, intelligence and integrity to shine from the inside and promote something with meaning and feeling. Wake up, look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re fucking awesome, because you are (I’m beginning to sound like a self-help book aren’t I?). Even the little things you do you should recognise; you didn’t eye-roll Debra from accounts when she told the same story three times about her niece shitting herself at a christening. You gave your last pound to the homeless man outside the corner shop. You even may have shared the last Milky Bar yoghurt with your sibling (note the word shared – those things are like crack) These things all matter and you should be proud of the person you are. It has taken me months to get to a point to genuinely say I am proud of I myself, I’m proud of the person I’m becoming, I’m proud of the person I was (even though I’m the first one to admit I’ve made some horrendous decisions in the past) and I’m proud of the person I will be. Strive to be the best person you can be, but not just for what you show on the outside, but for who you are on the inside, your character and integrity *drops mic*